Zandy has become a part of our family.
She started working for us a few months ago, and I have come to love everything about her. She is soft and gentle in spirit, yet full of smiles and the occasional giggle.
I had a sense that there was something that was weighing heavily on her and I was right.
I asked her, “are you sick, or are you pregnant”?
She was relieved to finally tell me she was 4 months pregnant, and very much in love.
It was sweet to see her glowing after a weekend of attention from her “sweetheart”.
I wanted to meet him and hear his plans, and
Gary wanted to firmly encourage him to be a real man and provide for Zandy and the baby.
The meeting never happened, and soon Zandy’s giggles turned to tears.
She looked at me one day in the kitchen and said in her sweet broken English, “Ma’am, in my heart, there is no more love…” and the story unfolded.
Zandy had been lied to, seduced and abandoned.
The father of her child has a wife, several children, a few girlfriends, and possibly even more children with them.
He has no intention of helping in anyway, her heart is broken, and her belly is growing.
She has never asked us for one thing, and the only reason we know anything about her life is because we ask her questions all the time.
Her back was sore from sleeping on hard title, so we got her a mattress.
We are doing all the practical things to help her through this time, and we are sending her to a private hospital to have this baby.
Her plan was to take public transportation to a government hospital.
The government hospitals in
Africa are notorious for neglect and in many situations abuse of their patients.
We can get her the simple things like a crib, clothes and diapers.
We can pay for good health care to give her and her baby a chance.
We can make her a part of our family and love and protect her.
What we can’t do is stop the deadly virus that she may have been infected with by this self-serving and promiscuous man. Please tell me how to have this conversation about life and death with this precious and innocent girl.
Please tell me how to convince her to get tested, and face the facts of HIV/AIDS for her and her baby…..please tells me how to do THAT….?
We your family and friends will pray. God will give you his wisdom on what to say. She’s been sent to you by the Lord, and his plan will unfold. We will trust God with you, the victory is his. We love you so much. Mom and Dad
I am praying that God will lead you every step of the way… Your Dad is right.. the victory is HIS. I am also praying for you. You must have so much courage to face that level of pain.